If you’ve decided it’s time to move into a house that is the right size, but they don’t think the same. You’ll need to know…
What to Do When a Parent Refuses to Move
This Is More Common Than You Think
I have heard every reason you can think of when their grown children approach their mom or dad about a home that is the right size for them.
It’s not like I’m an old guy, I’m fine
all the way to the extreme
to outright saying…
This is my home and I’m not leaving
to the angry outburst…
I can do whatever there is to do in this house, so no
If I move into one of those places, I’ll be dead in a week.
I’ll forget how to drive, they’ll take my remote, and I’ll be forced into competitive bingo.
Why They Almost Always React Like This
It’s part of the human DNA to want to stay where they’re comfortable and know what to expect. When you bring up a move to your mom and dad, not only is it unexpected, but it also is…
This conversation often comes at a time when they are already confused about what is happening to themselves - making it even harder to process
fear of losing independence
attachment to the home
fear of the unknown
What Does Not Work
You’ve agonized over this, you’ve researched options, and you’ve carefully studied your mom or dad to get to this decision, don’t waste all that hard work and start a fight. Most of the disagreements and outright refusals stem from…
fear of losing independence,
attachment to the home, &
fear of the unknown
What Helps Instead
Often times, your mom and dad are not expecting this kind of conversation and, assuredly, not ready for the decision to be made. In order to avoid blindsiding them with this suggestion and, almost surely leading to an argument, a lot of people I know have had success when they…
Start early
Ask questions that focus on safety and quality of life instead of telling
Involve a third party if needed
fear of losing independence
attachment to the home
fear of the unknown